Colossians 3: 18-25
A blessed Christian home|
May 21, 2017
A young man came to the Jewish rabbi and asked. “Teacher, what is a family?” The rabbi answered. “The family is ‘Menuka’.” ‘Menuka’ means a place of rest in Hebrew. A home is a place where you can rest in a word. The young man asked. “Sir, is not the rest of the soul supposed to go to heaven?” The rabbi answered. “That is correct. Eternal rest must go to heaven. But every day’s rest is at home.” “Teacher, then what is the condition of being able to have a rest in the home if it is so important and where the home can give a real rest to our lives?” “There is only one condition. It is ‘Hesed’. ” The word ‘hesed’ means great grace, mercy and compassion from God. God has provided rest, peace, and happiness through the home.
The same is true of Abraham’s family. It was a blessed home, receiving God’s mercy. Abraham was highly honored in the life of a stranger, was rich, and was in the hall of his descendants. The secret of this blessed home was God’s hesed, God’s great grace. Everything depends on this grace of God. Our home also depends on God’s grace. One theologian said, “There is only the church and the family that God created directly in this world.” So, the church also started in the home. The church in Jerusalem was the home of Mark. The churches of Rome and Ephesus were the homes of Priscilla and Aquila. Laodicea church was the house of Nympha. The church of Colossus began at the home of Philemon. The Corinthian church was a house of Gaius. The source of the church is the family, and the center of the family is God.
This home is in crisis. There are many reasons for that, but there is only one thing. The reason is that the center of the family is not God. It is because the center of the home is the world rather than God. A blessed family should be a God-centered family. A home that is not God-centered cannot be a blessed family. This is the principle of a blessed family made by God. We cannot expect blessed home apart from this principle.
Today’s word is the same. The most commonly used word in today’s Word is the word Lord. It has repeatedly used in six of the eight verses. This means that all things in the family should be centered on the Lord. The Lord-centered life is natural to Christians. It is a life to live naturally. Why? At that time, the members of the Colossus church and we became new people. Because they are people of the Lord and Christians. The way of becoming a new man and living as a new man is said verses 1-17. And today the Word tells how the new man should live in the home.
There are many family problems in the time of the church of Colossus and now. God’s family is living in an age of corruption, a collapse of family, and a loss of family. Today, through this Word we wish all our families to be restored to the blessed Christian home. What should we do to regain our blessed Christian home? (Pause)
1) The couple should restore the relationship between obedience and love.
To restore to a blessed Christian home, the wife first must obey to her husband. The reason the word first tells wife to obey husband is not because wife is inferior to husband. It is a word that can be argued against women’s activists when they hear it. However, the basis of this statement is based on God’s creation order. God’s creation order applies to all things in the universe. All things cannot exist apart from the order of creation. The same goes for the family. When God’s creation order is broken in the home, the family is broken.
Obedience is a military term. It means that the soldiers obey to their officers. But, the relationship of Christians no longer has a slave relationship. There is no concept of superiority and inferiority. Everyone is equal in Christ. Adam and Eve were created in the image of God equal. The same is true of both husband and his wife. But, the husband received the equal authority to lead the family. So, he said to obey with respect and trust. Then, should we submit to a husband who cannot give respect and trust? The Bible (1Peter 3) encourages you to obey, though. The reason is that an innocent behavior of submission can save her husband. The model in which a wife submits to her husband unconditionally is Jesus. Jesus is equal to God, but he was completely obedient to God to do His will. Likewise, a wife is equal to her husband, but must obey her husband for the order given by God. You must obey your husband as a good co-worker. When a wife submits to her husband, God’s law is fulfilled and restored to a blessed Christian home in the home.
Also, husband must love his wife and does not distress her. At that time, wives, children, and servants lived together as a family in the home. Among them, women, children, and servants were the times when basic human rights were neglected. The wife, who was in the position of the weak, was often neglected and harassed by her husband. The word harassment means that it makes you angry, grieved and lamented by words. It means giving a bitter experience and hurting the heart with strong words. The word says that do not do this. This word is a strong order to stop this right now. The habit of harassment is to be discarded immediately.
And, Paul said to husband to love his wife. To love means to fond, to cherish, and to want your wife to be good at everything. This love is Agape love. It is unconditional love. There is this love in the Old Testament. It is the love that Hosea loved the prostitute Gomer. It is a ridiculous love. Jesus also made a nonsense love. It is the love that has been given for us as a sin offering for the church. It is a devoted, sacrificial, unconditional love that has given all of you. The Word commands this love to the husband. I hope to be a blessed Christian home with the unconditional love of husband and the innocent obedience of wife. What should we do to regain our blessed Christian home? (Pause)
2) The parents should restore the relationship of obedience and caregiving.
To restore to a blessed Christian home, children must obey their parents. In the original language, this obedience used a stronger expression than a wife submitting to her husband. Conversely, it was translated. Children require absolute obedience to their parents. It requires obedience like obedience to God. The reason is that parents are God’s agents.
God gave our parents the authority of God. Ignoring the authority of the parents is like ignoring the authority of God. How precious this is, God gave in the fifth commandment. This commandment was the first commandment that promised blessing. It is a promise of good life and long life on this earth. (Eph. 6) Paul stated that everything was obedient to his parents. Everything is not just one thing, or a few things. It does not mean to honor it temporarily or definitively, but to respect it continuously and unlimitedly. Even though it is an order related to sin, it means not to lose the attitude of obedience. Even if it is contrary to the authority of God and the conscience of your faith, it means not to resist in the heart but to reject it politely while maintaining obedience. The reason why we should do this is because God is pleased. The obedience to the parents is to make God please. In order to become a blessed Christian family, children must obey their parents in all things.
Also, parents must not to upset their children. This word is to make children repeatedly angered. It means to do so every time. Parents make their children angry because they abuse their rights. Parents are the caretakers, guardians, and supporters of their children. Children are God’s gifts. Parents are not the owners of their children. It is the caretaker who raises as the agent of the God who is the owner. When we raise our children, we do not nurture them according to my desires. You must fulfill the obligation to protect your children well and to maximize their gifts and talents. You should not make them constantly angry and discouraged.
Brain World surveyed 1,774 parents with children ages 0 to 19 in their survey on parenting and parent education. When asked what is the most difficult thing in raising a child, 68% answered “emotion control”. And when asked what is most worrying for their children, 43 percent said they are “the personality of their children.” In another survey, it asked the youth. When asked what is the most desirable parental figure, the first place answered, “parents who do emotion control well”. The issue of child education is the same regardless of race.
Do not rebuke your children without temperance and do not upset him. Anger and discouragement cause them to lose their passion and courage. Then the child loses his future. Instead, parents should do this one well. It is home education. Home education is Bible education. It is to “bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” (Eph. 6) The training is Piedeia that it is a reproof accompanied by training and punishment. Reprimand should not make them to be embarrassed, refrain from insults, and be consistent reproof. Instruction is Nudeshia that it is to teach through dialogue with their children. Keep an empathic, positive, blessed communication.
The Israelites are not natural born genius. The Koreans are the people who have the highest IQ in the world. But there is one difference. Education is different. That is Bible-centered home education and world-centered home education. Children should be absolutely obedient to their parents and parents must take care of them well as the God’s gift. And, restore to a blessed Christian home. What should we do to regain our blessed Christian home?
3) The master and slave must restore the relationship between obedience and caring.
To be a blessed Christian family, the servants should obey their master as children obey to their parents. If the servant did not obey the owner, he could be discarded at any time. This is not only the words given to servants and masters at that time, but also to those Christians who are working today.
Paul said that God is the one who called us at work. So, Calvin said that the Christian’s job is a vocation rather than a profession. He said that Christ placed the masters of the flesh in each workplace of the saints and gave them authority to do specific things for society and nation. Therefore, the master is not the man but the Lord. If you think of the Lord, you will have a different thought and attitude. If you think that your master is a person, you just want to please the person and try to do it moderately. But if you think your master is the Lord, you will be doing everything right. So, the Christian is to do everything as he does to the Lord.
At the time of Rome, slaves were half. It was a so-called high-ranking man who was taken as slaves. It was a society that was run by slaves such as housekeeping business, errands, upper class or child education, and labor. Paul says that no matter what they do, Christians should be faithful. We live in doing various things. Whatever you do, God has called you to that position, so it is sacred and precious. And, you must reveal the name of Christ by faithfulness in the place where you sent it. Then, God promised to give good rewards. But He promised to those who work unfaithfully will give evil rewards.
The owner or boss should also consider their employees. The word “care” is cares about other people in many ways, cares about their minds, and cares about them. It is said that boss should look at the situation of the employees more carefully than to reprove and reproach unconditionally. Before you speak or act, you think of yourself as someone else’s position and act to help the person. Maintain a relationship of trust with the person you care about.
There is an XY theory by Douglas McGregor, a professor of business administration at MIT. X theory is that people do not like to work. They only do what I am instructed to do. Therefore, we use monetary compensation as an incentive. It is the theory that strict supervision and detailed order should strengthen control. Y theory that work is natural for people. Human beings exert their power through labor and want to realize themselves. It is therefore possible to work autonomously and creatively. It is the theory that we must provide a good working conditions. The workplace has also changed a lot. Reward is not all but human-centered management. It is changing to the preferred workplace. Administrators should consider this. It is not easy. It is because labor is troublesome to all.
The owner or boss must give righteousness and fairness to their employees. Righteousness and fairness are attributes of God. It means to treat the employees with the heart of God. The masters are not to be satisfied with being served, but to treat them justly and equally as the Lord. And, the owner or boss must remember God who is above them and refrain from unjust actions. Home and work in our lives cannot be separated. Your home should be restful if your job is well. A family should have peace and reward for work life. Work sincerely and honestly as you are in the workplace, working in the presence of the Lord. I hope that you restore your home as a blessed Christian home by always acting in righteousness and fairness. Amen. (Pause)
The Lord who wants to live as a blessed Christian home, we want to be a home to build a solid foundation in the Word. May we be a family that understands and accepts each other by fearing God. Let husbands and wives be united in love, and that a good relationship be built in which parents and children serve one another in Christ. Please forgive what you cannot serve with true love and heal the wound with the Holy Spirit. Forgive parents who have neglected to raise their children in the Lord’s cultivation and instruction. Let us build our family on the Word alone, revealing the blessings of the kingdom of God and having a holy influence on the world. I pray in the name of Jesus who is the master of our family. Amen.